How to please your woman...outside of the bedroom

As men, we are macho...we think we are better than we are, we are prideful, arrogant, selfish...but we can be amazing as well. We can be caring, selfLESS, sensitive, attentive, thoughtful and even romantic. However, in order to be these things, we need to LISTEN to what our significant other actually says.

This goes for husbands, serious boyfriends, couples that are dating and even those men preparing for their first date with a lovely female. There is always something that you can do to knock the socks off your significant other. For those married men, knocking her socks off with loving gestures that are a surprise will end up knocking off more than her socks...

Fellas, here is a little FYI for you, just as a point of understanding. Most women aren't going to tell you that you do a great job attending to her needs. However, they are going to tell their friends and especially family. Those ladies that talk to their mother every day are going to sing your praises to her if you are attentive and assertive, great things will be said about you when you aren't around and that is really the ultimate goal here.

All women love surprises. I don't care what they say, they love surprises. They key is to listen, no really, actually listen to the words that they are saying because you will start to hear common themes along the way that will be key indicators to the things she likes. For those men that are in the early stages of relationship or just going on a first date, just start with flowers. All women love flowers and its always viewed as thoughtful. I continually surprised by the amount of women who tell me they have never received flowers from a guy. Early on in the dating relationship, just do it. Nothing crazy...just some flowers.  Go to Costco and buy their bouquet of roses. Simple. Cost-effective and a home-run.

For those fellas that are further along in the relationship status game and maybe even have a commitment across the magical Facebook network...you need to go above and beyond. The Costco bouquets are what you give your significant other on a random Tuesday, just because. To hit a home-run, you need to deliver a pre-arranged bouquet from one of the more expensive delivery floral houses such as Ballard Blossom or City Flowers. These places are expensive, but you get what you pay for and it usually comes back to you later in the evening if you are ahead of the game and you aren't buying her flowers because you made a mistake.

Fellas, don't get intimidated of feel obligated by these suggestions. If that happens, she will know and then the effect is gone. Know your significant other. That is the over-arching theme here. If you know your woman, you will know and understand what makes her tick and what gets her excited. It could be flowers, it could a bottle of wine, it could be a 6-pack of Bud Light, it could be cooking her dinner, it could be as simple as planning a date night or it could just be quality time together - alone.

Know your woman's love language. Read this book and what I am saying will make much more sense. The amazing truth is that the journey is never over. Women are so complex, the good men are constantly trying to understand and uncover new, exciting levels of knowledge and understanding of their woman. That is the fun part. When you care about someone so much that you want to understand the deepest levels of her being and her emotions, that is what becomes exciting.

Finally, as I leave you tonight, one final point. Never underestimate the power of a great mix CD. Our women love music just as much as we do, and sometimes even more. The trick is to learn what type of music she likes and make her a CD of songs that she likes. The true creative aficionado's will plan a date around a mix CD theme. Just some ideas.

The key is really just knowing your woman and understanding her likes. If you pay close attention to her needs, she will pay attention to yours. And finally, you will actually enjoy make her happy. This week, try it out and report back. The modern man wants to know. Enjoy the journey.