The V-Day Trap Door

Ladies, come in real close...listen up...the Modern Man has something that he would like to share with you.

How many of you have X-Boyfriends?? How many of you have X-Boyfriends whom you still wish would be your actual boyfriend? You know who you are. Some of you reading this aren't currently in this situation, but you have certainly been in it before.

You break up, get back together and think THIS time it will be different. THIS time he will change his stripes because he loves me so much and he wants this to work between us...and then...the next break up is even more difficult.

Why does this happen? How can someone say so many great things and then not act on them? All guys must be this way right? Well, no. That is definitely not true. All guys say things that they don't act on, but the guys that we are talking about...you ladies enable their behavior.

Ladies, you need to be emotionally ruthless with these men. You need to tell how it is. If they want to be with you, they need to follow through with their claims. They need to choose you over their friends, they need to think of you before 10pm, they need to let go of their well-known, comfortable convenience.

As we approach Valentines Day this year, if this message resonates with you, beware. Men will say that they hate Valentines Day, and many do. Its a completely commercialized holiday that is in place nearly 100% to benefit the retail industry. Some men however, have a completely different view of Valentines Day. Some use Valentines Day to prey on the weak. Some use Valentines Day to make it look like they are changing their stripes by doing something unexpectedly nice for you. Appealing to your lonely, longing heart. Some of you ladies are allowing them to stick around in your hearts and minds...kick them out.

Boys don't change overnight. Boys become men if they want to become men. They need to understand the value of all that is woman and follow through on their fancy adjectives. When you get flowers or a special card from that former someone this weekend, why not ask him why he sent it to you? See what he says.

The majority of women don't understand their worth. Many allow these users and abusers to make promises and then move on as soon as something they think is better comes along. Women, understand that you are precious and that you are special. Make the men courting you realize that same thing. If those boys earn the affection you hand out, earn the attention, earn the love, earn the recognition then there won't be a need for Valentines Day because they will do something special for you on any random weekday just because they appreciate you.